Whether it’s a new boyfriend, flirt or even an old boyfriend your good friend is having problems with and you know he is bad news or don’t like him, should you say it? Should we as girls meddle in our friends love life if we don’t approve of her choices or in the relationship she is having?
Of course we all have our reasons for not liking someone and even more so if we think that the flirt or boyfriend is bad for the friend. But how can we say it and not sound mean or jealous? Is there even a way to go that far in someones love life and tell them “I don’t think that you should date him” or even go further and tell your friend that you think they should break up with their boyfriend?
We all care about our friends of want the best for them, but is it the right thing to do? Will we save her from a heartbreak in the future or will we ruin the friendship and create a fight that might lead to the end of a friendship if we speak our minds?
I have had my own experiences with this topic and with my own friends. I am not a huge fan of meddling in other peoples lives and definitly not when it comes to other peoples relationships. I will help my friends in any way I can but I refuse to decide or even lead them in a certain direction when it comes to their love life. Especially when it comes to a couple that has been together for a long time. I always remember and tell myself that I haven’t gone though the things that the two of them have, I dont know him well enough to know how he is and I don’t know their problems and their good times as well as they do. That is why I never want to say to a friend that has been together with a boy to leave him or to stay with him if they are having problems.
But I ask myself, do we meddle too much? Do friends often become the reason why a couple breaks up? Or are we living in a society that relies too much on our friends to “fix” our problems and or take the hard decisions for us?
Are we too scared to do it ourselves that we make our nearest do it for us? And if so, why is that? Are we just simply afraid of doing it, are we just looking for a good advice or are we maybe a bit selfish and giving the decision to someone else, so that we later on can blame someone else than ourselves if we regret it?
I wonder if this will be different in the future or just even worse…?
We might never find out, but maybe there should be a set of rules about this. Because it really can destroy friendships and relationships. Maybe we are just giving advices without thinking that the things we say can affect someones lives. Both in the positive but also in the negative ways.